Why grandmas are so annoying

And more gifts. That you don't have room for in your house. Gifts for no reason. Gifts for made up reasons. Gifts that make your kids feel entitled. Gifts that go against everything you've been trying to teach your kids, like that consumerism isn't cool.

And Barbie is a definite no I'm a feminist, mom! They act like your kid is their kid. You tell your kids not to play with sharp objects. Grandpa gives them a demonstrative chainsaw lesson in the garage while you're cooking dinner. Grandparents think they can decide what's best for your kid because they sometimes forget you're the parent. They love their grandkids more than they love their own kids. It can be annoying and slightly unnerving to see them pour out all this love for a little person that's not you.

It's a very magical love, unburdened by financial stresses, parenting pressure and daily responsibilities. But for real, I don't remember my mother getting down on the floor and playing with me like that! But then sometimes they DON'T love their grandkids as much as you thought they would. I know this is opposite scenario. However, as much as grandmas are indispensable people in your life, they may become annoying as they grow older. Ideally, when somebody starts annoying you, you break ties with them.

However, no matter how annoying your grandma is, she is your family, and you are stuck with her. For this reason, as annoying as she is, you need to come up with ways of dealing with her without hurting her. This is not a walk in the park but a situation that will present its unique challenges. Nevertheless, the results of having a solid relationship with your grandma are worth the trouble of coping with her.

Read on for advice on how to handle the annoying grandma. As your grandma grows older, her demands increase. Additionally, some of the demands that she has are probably illogical. This is mainly the reason why you feel that your grandma is annoying. It is normal to feel guilty when you think that your grandma is annoying.

However, as much as their age and condition are understandable, you are human too. Consider that double the number of seniors that were working in are working today. It's true: According to a report from Capital One and United Income , 20 percent of adults 65 or older are still in the workforce.

So it may not be feasible for grandparents to watch their grandkids without some financial incentive. While grandparents may be eager to spoil their grandkids, that doesn't mean they should be expected to foot the bill for things all the time.

So, how much are grandparents shelling out these days? Yes, those constant requests to "borrow" some cash—knowing full well it'll take you a lifetime to pay it back, if you ever do—are more than a little annoying. With the often-exorbitant spending that goes along with being a grandparent, it's no surprise that some grandmothers and grandfathers aren't too thrilled when their grandkids don't ever wear those outfits they bought them.

Those ruffly dresses and baby bow ties weren't free, you know! You might think that naming your baby is a decision best left to you and your partner, but the odds that your parents or in-laws agree with you are slim. In fact, according to a survey from parenting website Mumsnet , just 31 percent of the 2, grandparents polled thought that naming the grandkids was none of their business.

Don't expect on a ringing endorsement from your parents about that uncommon name you gave their grandkid. According to the same Mumsnet survey, 28 percent of grandparents took issue with their grandkid's name for being "too odd," while 15 percent had a problem with it being "made up" or "unconventional. Parents often want to be there for all of their kids' firsts—their first trip to the park, their first movie , their first haircut —but not allowing grandparents to participate in some of those milestones can be a real problem.

After all, if they're watching the grandkids, it stands to reason they might want to make those special memories, too.

Those trips to the beach , vacations in Europe, and nights spent camping in national parks probably look pretty fun to your kids' grandparents, too.

Even if they can't go, it never hurts to ask! Just because grandma or grandpa wants to babysit doesn't mean they want to do so at the drop of a hat. Unless you want to strain your relationship, don't expect that you can drop the kids off unannounced at a grandparent's house every time you want to hit the movies or have date night.

When grandma said she was happy to watch the kids for the weekend, she definitely wasn't counting on your half-blind pound Cane Corso being part of the deal. Want to annoy a grandparent in your life? Call them by their name.

According to AARP, 70 percent of grandmothers are called some form of "grandma," 60 percent of grandfathers are called some form of "grandpa," and just 5 percent of grandparents are called by their first name.

Not raising your kids to put their boots out for St. Nick at Christmas or attend services on Yom Kippur may seem like no big deal to you, but to many grandparents, not having those cultural traditions passed down can be seriously hurtful.

However, that doesn't mean that every interaction between parents and grandparents is a peaceful one. Sometimes it can be hard for parents and grandparents to navigate situations together because their thought processes and goals on regarding the kid is very different," says life coach and licensed mental health counselor Dr.

Jaime Kulaga , Ph. The relationship is often all about having fun, 'being the good guy,' and filling the child up with goodies and then sending them back home to mom. And while having an adult who will ply you with toys and treats may seem like a dream come true to kids, it's not always so well-received by parents.

If you want to stay on the right side of your grandchild's parents, it's time commit these common offenses to memory—and avoid them at all costs.

Grandma and grandpa tend to be more than just occasional babysitters: for many kids, they're practically a one-stop shop for all things sugary, fried, or otherwise terrible for you. Much to many parents' dismay, grandparents are a never-ending fount of treats, despite everyone else's best efforts to make them understand that no pediatrician in the world has ever recommended daily ice cream. They are no longer in the 'parenting' role but more of a role of fun and cuddles with less expectations.

Grandparenting is not about how many times you can tell Johnny to eat his broccoli for nutritional purposes, but rather letting Johnny have fun picking out any candy he wants at the store and letting him eat it before dinner," says Dr.

While kids will inevitably learn what's "cool" or lessons about gendered clothing from their peers, in many cases, grandparents are the early initiators of this behavior. While a baby's parents are still trying to figure out how to get a onesie on their child without causing a complete meltdown, grandma and grandpa are, rather annoyingly, trying to affix a pink bow to their nearly hairless head.

Whether you're giving birth in the tub at home or in a surgical suite at a hospital, having a baby is, without a doubt, a major medical event. And even when it's a relatively easy process, it can still be a pretty private thing, and one that's certainly not made easier by the grandparents-to-be demanding to get a front row seat.

They may feel as if the new child is a part of them, too, and they want to be there to experience this moment. Although the grandparents' intentions are often meant very well in a situation like this, if the couple having the baby want their privacy, it is a good initial boundary for the parents to set with the grandparents," says Dr. Parenting techniques are an ever-evolving medium, meaning that what worked for parents decades ago probably won't fly by today's standards.

So, when a grandparent comments that holding a baby too much will "spoil them" or suggests letting a newborn scream for hours in the name of sleep training, they shouldn't be surprised when their "helpful" tips fall on deaf—or angry—ears. Caring for children is no easy feat, even when they're so well-behaved they're practically angels.

So, when grandparents decide that they're not actually up for watching Frozen for the hundredth time while their grandchild's parents get to enjoy a rare date night, it's an undeniable source of frustration.

Some things grandparents do are slightly irritating, while others are downright unsafe. While car seat rules have changed significantly over the past half-century, that's no excuse for grandparents to decide that safely-tightened straps or a rear-facing seat simply aren't necessary—and they shouldn't be surprised if they don't get to drive with their grandkids in the car if those rules go ignored.

Just because grandma thinks their three-month-old grandchild is really eyeing that plate of bagels doesn't mean parents should automatically concede. Recommendations on feeding practices have changed over the past few decades, and now most authorities recommend waiting until six months for solids—meaning those delicious snacks will have to wait a while. Even the smartest, most reasonable grandparents can sometimes mistake "something I heard" for "medical information," especially in terms of pregnancy and child-rearing.

However, if you're a grandparent-to-be who wants to enjoy an active role in your grandchild's life, it's important that you keep those opinions on whether or not pregnant women should swim in the ocean, how dangerous it is to raise your arms over your head, or which pregnancy dreams are actually premonitions, to yourself.

Of course, if you do want to appease an overzealous grandparent, you can always take the high road: "You don't have to take the advice they are giving to you, but do respect that they have been through this before, so don't close your mind too much just in case something they say could actually help you and baby," suggests Dr.